I really do feel strongly about this subject. I am totally committed to my husband and meeting his needs. So much of our society looks down on the woman that “waits on” her husband or serves him before herself. I know, from personal experience, that when a woman puts her huband’s needs above hers she will be happier. God has called us to be a helpmeet to the man in our lives and if we are not doing so our relationship will not be fulfilled.
While writing this I am afraid that I will sound “holier than though” or as if I am some sort of “super woman” who always makes her man happy. That is the farthest thing from the truth. But I have tried over time to put into practice the advice of those women that are older than I am. And I have seen it revelutionize my marriage. When I am focused on meeting his needs, I don’t worry about my own needs being met. I feel more fulfilled by serving the man God has called me to serve. We both are happier and I see us enjoying each other more when our roles are being played in the way God intended them to be.
When we, as women, become outward focused we will find ourselves happier. Selfishness is never becoming of a lady. But a servants heart is beautiful in many ways. When our husband feels honored and loved he will be more responsive to us in so many ways. Love and servanthood, is an attitude of the heart and sometimes an attitude starts with a choice. There are times that I have to choose to love my husband even when I don’t “feel” it. I am so happy to be at the point in our marriage where I can look at him from across the room and feel my heart swell with pride over the fact that he is mine and I am his. Or I can watch him with our children and think to myself how much I love him.
When we can train ourselves to think like this, our actions will change to meet our thoughts. When we stop seeing our husbands as uncompleted “to do” lists, or missed birthdays, or late nights at work, and start seeing them as the men that we love we will WANT to treat them differently. And God will be honored and glorified through a wife that serves her husband and through a husband that loves his wife as she deserves to be loved. It is an amazing thing, this relationship we call marriage. It is certainly of God, for anything this wonderful must come from above.
May you be blessed,
Amanda
I really enjoyed reading this post. I know alot of young married women that don’t see their husbands this way. And I myself even have my times where I get angry at my husband cause I feel like I’m doing so much that he’s not.
We definatly have to get together some time. I miss seeing you guys at church and I know Casey probably misses Joe.
Amen!
~Blessings!
This is a wonderful tribute to your husband. And those are some pretty cute babies! Thanks for stopping by my blog.
I love it because all of my friends give me such a hard time for “catering” as they call it to my husband. I love my husband and I call it “being his wife and loving him” I make his meals and I do serve him first, if his glass is empty I fill it for him. If I’m going to the kitchen for something I always offer to take care of him first. I don’t expect anything in return but I have to say our marriage works this way. We have 4 amazing, loving children. We love each other mentally, emotionally and physically and I feel these are just little things that make life easier on him and make him happy. Good for you and god bless you and your family.
Hearts and Hugs
Marie
Wonderful blog! I wish I had read something like this before I got married. When we were first married, I didn’t have a clue, and neither did Aaron for that matter.
I looked at submission as meeting Aaron’s physical needs (food clothing, etc..) and agreeing with him, because the Bible said I had to. However, often my heart was not in it, and I would nag him or let him make a descision but then complain about what he did.
After a few years of this, my husband expressed to me that he did not want me waiting on him all the time, and he told me that it made him feel like I didn’t think he could do anything when I did wait on him. So, I had to admit to him and God that I didn’t get the submission thing, and slowly God began to show me that what was important in submitting to Him and to my husband was not the acts that I did, but the attitude of my heart. My husband was wanting my respect much more than the things I did for him. As I began to learn this, God gave me the power to talk to him without nagging him, recognize his accomplishments, consult him, let him have the final word on descisions without being critical all the time and be content to let him be the head of our household. Do I still try to do things for him? Of course, but it’s not out of obligation–it’s out of love and respect, and that has truly made all the difference in our marriage.
As you probably well know, I’m not perfect at this, but thankfully, God and my hubby continue to be patient with me.
Have a blessed day!